I’m Jason, and I am The Modern Dad. I say that because I was tired of hearing the complaints that dad’s don’t help, they work all the time, and then at the end of the day they kick up their feet and expect the mom to cater to their needs. Well times have changed.
When we found out that we were pregnant I think I was more excited than my wife was (and she was pretty excited). Both of us have always dreamed of becoming parents and finally that dream was becoming a reality.
I had decided from the beginning that I wanted to be involved in everything and was going to be there through it all. From picking our doctor, going to every appointment, to setting up the room, buying clothes, and deciding what name to go with. I didn’t want to miss out on anything.
I made sure that I knew when all the doctors appointments were so that I could arrange my schedule to be there for each and everyone of them. This wasn’t just important to me, but my wife also loved how supportive I was. But I also was excited to go. I too wanted to see the heart beat for the first time, know how the baby was developing each visit, and know if we were having a boy or girl so I could start shopping for clothes.
I not only wanted to support my wife through the doctors visits, but anytime she had a crazy craving I was all over it. She had the textbook cravings: pickles and ice cream. So I made sure that our fridge was stocked with pickles and the freezer had every brand and flavor of ice cream imaginable.
My wife was a teacher for seven years and so coming up with a name was hard because any name that I would say she had already taught a kid with that name, and they were never the good kids. One day a friend of ours told us that they were driving around and saw a plumbing truck drive by called Tyton Plumming. “What about Tyton?” they thought. And that is how they picked their kids names. Well, we joked around. Any store and brand we saw we we say, “What about Subway? Or Anthropologie?” Then one day my wife said, “You like Nixon watches, what about Nixon?” And it stuck. We both loved the name and were so excited.
When it came time to have our son I went by everything the doctor said. He told us that even if you think it’s happening come to the hospital. So when she thought she was having contractions I made sure that we went. I didn’t want to risk anything and had no idea what contractions could feel like. I just wanted to support her and do anything I could to let her know that I was there for her.
When the time came to start getting the baby out I wanted to witness the whole thing. Lots of guys freak out about this: there’s too much blood, I don’t want to see anything get messed up, I hate seeing my wife in pain. Well, I wanted to support her and be there to help motivate her, but at the same time I wanted to witness the most amazing moment of my life: the birth of my son.
To this day I continue supporting my wife by helping out after I get of work. Being a parent means that you work as team. There isn’t just mom’s duties and dad’s duties. You do everything together and it makes parenting so much easier. Whether it’s cooking, cleaning, changing a diaper, getting my son dressed, helping my wife with the laundry I will do it all. We support each other and it has made our lives so much easier and happier.